‘Art In Boxes’ Seminar by – Marjolaine Ryley

Marjolaine Ryleh  when Research Fellow at PARC gave a talk in answer to this question 

“Is the way photographs are collected and stored changing forever as the digital age takes an ever-firmer grip on traditional snap-shot photography? The magic of discovering a box full of dusty, faded old photographs under a deceased relatives bed has a magic and poignancy to it that has changed little with the passage of time. But how will we examine a legacy left on-line a personal collection out there in the ether. Squabbles over who gets to keep the pictures could be a thing of the past however the tangible objects we so love to hold may soon disappear altogether. Is the family gathered around the slide projector in order to view an obsessive grandfather’s travels through China a thing of the past? Is this indeed the last picture show?”

To read her talk go HERE

‘Art In Boxes’ Seminar (20 minute talk) – Marjolaine Ryley

(‘Art in Boxes’ was a series of seminars for invited speakers and MA students held at PARC (Photography & the Archive Research Centre) at London College of Communication, University of the Arts, London.) 

PARENTS & PARENTING

The challenge of parenting brings out our weak points as well as our strengths!

I don't give him much chance in resisting her winning ways!
I don't give him much of a chance in resisting that cheeky face!

In addition to personal and professional development for all this site is for three groups in particular; managers, teachers – and parents.

Many of the  1000+ themes on this site are relevant to you as a parent or a ‘parent-to-be’ – or to your personal or professional development.

In brief the model here – my SunWALK PDS (People Development System) sees parenting as maximizing the energy that flows through each of those you parent – and through the family as a whole, with each having a range of rights and responsibilities that help maximise the flow of the life-force.

The parent’s job is to nurture growth and development through keeping that flow of energy maximised – within a context of unconditional love and appropriate discipline.

That means paying attention to the needs of the individual as well as to the family as a whole.

Your parenting is as good as your self-parenting and that is as good as the personal development you’ve achieved – including transforming any negative created by imperfections in the parenting you received.

The good news is that on this site are ideas that you can put to work straight away.

More to come soon – why not use the SEARCH button or the Categories/Index.

ParentlinePlus – one major source of help for parents in the UK

One major source of help for parents in the UK is HERE

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SEE also Learning Motivation for Success

All postings to this site relate to the central model in the PhD.

Summaries are HERE

Coming Home: an Introduction to Spirituality

There are many who yearn for spiritual food who are put off by the antics and corruption of religions. Perennial Philosophy or mystical paths such as Sufism can provide that food. But what are the basics of this core belief that transcends religions?

This is the beginning of an attempt to provide such a n i.ntroduction. Currently I am developing it in a question and answer format.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Coming Home

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Waking up to the Spirit you have always been

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A book for the non religiously spiritual.

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Roger Prentice

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Introduction:

 

This is an attempt, using questions and answers, to present simply and clearly the truth about being spiritual – initially without reference to religions.

 

This is for family, friends and students – and all those who want to realize, i.e. realize the deepest in themselves. I haven’t achieved this to a high order. Many of you can out-do me in many good things. But it seems my task is to collect and re-present these insights. I am painfully aware of my shortcomings. But as Heschel says to be human is to suffer the knowledge of the difference between what we should be and what we are. The only ‘crime’ is to say ‘that’s the way I am and I’m not going to change’. To say that is also very dangerous. We are all designed to struggle toward our own perfection – to become more and realize our gifts more fully in the mutuality of love.

 

This is an action-based account i.e. there are a range of simple ‘To do’ practices that can help you relax into:

To do: Sit quietly as often as you can – and let your breath breathe you. (More to follow)

 

Part 1 is an attempt to present the ‘bare bones’ without reference to the great and the good, or to philosophies or religions.

 

Part 2 goes a stage deeper and introduces ideas from some of the great and the good – people such as Ken Wilber.

 

Part 3 goes deeper.

Coming Home

Part 1- Re-finding our-selves = re-finding the spirit we thought we had lost

 

Q. What is spirit?

A. All that isn’t simply physical.

 

Q. Does that mean mind as well as feelings?

A. Yes if we put mind and heart together we get ‘heart-mind’. Heart-mind = our interior landscape or simply consciousness – the great inner ‘sea’ of feelings and thoughts. Neither heart nor mind in this sense are physical.

 

Q. Is that all spirit is?

A. It a) is the life-force b) the force of attraction that holds all bodies together and c) it is walking on in the right spirit – until all becomes Spirit.

 

Q. Are there other names for the spiritual?

A. Yes many – love, energy, chi etc.

 

Q. So spirit, or love as attraction, holds everything together?

A. Yes. Another definition of being spiritual is ‘to live for others’, to be of service.

 

Q. What else comes from spirit, apart from the warmth of love?

A. The light of the mind, knowing. ‘Warmth and holding together’ and ‘the light of seeing and knowing’ – both flow from love.

 

Q. What about everyday activities? Is walking spiritual?

A. It can be.

 

Q. Is running spiritual?

A. It can be.

 

Q. Is Sky-diving spiritual?

A. It can be.

 

Q. Is sex spiritual?

A. It can be.

 

Q. Is breathing spiritual?

A. It can be. The great yogic teaching is that the breath is that which connects the physical and the spiritual.

 

Q. Why ‘can be’ in all of these?

A. It is ‘yes’ if we a) re-cognize such activities in the context of the spiritual and b) realize the eternal in ourselves.

But it is ‘no’ if we remain tied to the miseries of our own ego.

 

Q. Does that mean that everyone is spiritual?

A. Yes but each needs to plug in and switch on! We all spring from the Whole, just as sunlight emanates from the sun. But we have to allow ourselves to feel, & acknowledge, the awareness that deep down we know was there from the beginning.

 

Q. Is being spiritual a normal state of being?

A. Yes it is simply being more than self-centredness. It is being conscious of the Whole/the Source/the Spirit that is beyond our individual ego. This consciousness gradually widens the circle of its concern and allows us to lessen our attachment to our ego.

 

Q. So loving more widely – like the outflowing circles from a dropped stone in a pond – is freeing?

A. Yes – those who really achieve insight cease to be run by the pleasures and torments of the the ‘small self’ – the ego and tru freedom increases..

 

Q. Isn’t this something that only special people – saints or mystics – can do?

A. No it is part of being human and we all have such experiences. But we fail to realize their closeness and fullness, mainly because they are so simple & there all the time – we’ve failed to notice, for want of quietness and contemplation! In any case we are all mystical just as we are all philosophical its part of the package of being human – just as much as is being social, sexual and creative.

 

Q. How do we make those experiences a stronger part of our lives?

A. Contemplation or meditation – as one source says ‘Be still, and know …’.

 

Q. How do we stop or prevent ourselves being spiritual?

A. Not staying conscious of that Whole from which we spring (emanate). And by staying attached to the pleasures and torments of ego-identification.

 

Q. Is there any other sense that someone might not be, or stop being, spiritual?

A. When they are attached to any thing that prevents her/him from experiencing their true Self.

 

Q. How many kinds of attachment are there?

A. Many – we think of gross ones such as alcohol and drugs but many are subtle – materialism, status etc – some are very subtle, perhaps ultimately even the attachment to not being attached!

 

Q. What do I do if violent or filthy or self-destructive thoughts or ‘demons’ come into my head?

A. Let them pass as though they were moving across a cinema screen and say, ‘Hello good morning/ eve etc, thank you and goodbye.’ Our True Self is not our thoughts. Thoughts come from the ego.

 

Q. Why what good would that do?

A. It will help you understand that you are not your thoughts.

 

Q. If I’m not my thoughts then what am I?

A. You are part of the Whole, in the temporary emanation and form of being uniquely you for 80 or so years.

 

Q. The Whole of what?

A. The Universe and beyond (everything – and all that is beyond that isn’t a thing!)

 

Q. What else am I?

A. You are star-stuff made conscious (SEE the 3 recent BBC physics documentaries called ‘Atom’.)

 

Q. What else am I?

A. You are ‘a hairy bag of sea-soup’. (This is not only a joke but is an accurate statement about our physical make up and evolution!) Science and spirituality are two ways of approaching truth.

 

Q. Do rituals and practices help?

A. Yes providing we don’t allow them to breed complacency, narrowness, and self-satisfaction i.e. a state of attachment. The most important are contemplation/meditation, prayer, and service to others.

 

Q. What really is contemplation or meditation?

A. Being still to experience our True Self, instead of the mind chatter and ‘TV interference’ of the ego.

 

Q. And what is the ultimate secret of the universe?

A. It is pointed to, not described, in these the final sentences of Wilber’s The Eye of Spirit;

When the great Zen master Fa-ch’ang was dying, a squirrel screeched out on the roof. ‘It’s just this’ he said, ‘and nothing more’. SFB P.258

 

Q. I don’t geddit!

A. Here it is again from another master;

The world is illusory

Brahman alone is real;

Brahman is the world. (SFB p19)

 

Q. Still don’t geddit!

A. Here it is again from another master;

There is neither creation nor destruction,

Neither destiny nor free-will;

Neither path nor achievement;

This is the final truth. (One Taste p468)

Q. Still don’t geddit!

A. ‘Walk on‘ (The Buddha). Walk on in the right spirit – lighten up and have forgiving and compassionate fun – until all becomes Spirit.

 

End of Part 1 (To be developed)

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All postings to this site relate to the central SunWALK model in the PhD.

Summaries are HERE

The Promise of Happiness

The novel The Promise of Happiness by Justin Cartright is one of the very best pieces of modern fiction I have read. I suspect that many of those interested in the holistic will find this book a searching and compassionate piece of work.
The Scotsman
I doubt if there is a better English novelist of his generation. –This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Time Out
With its devastating breadth of empathy, The Promise of Happiness is even better than 2002’s White Lightning.

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All postings to this site relate to the central SunWALK model in the PhD.

Summaries are HERE

The Family, Human Rights & Ritalin in Norway

Joar writes that; The medicating of behavioural problems in Norwegian schools is approaching epidemic conditions with regard to diagnosing and treating children with behavioural difficulties.

Joar Tranøy is a criminologist (MA), psychologist (BSc.), historian (BA) and School Counselling Advisor. Previously a researcher/research scholar at the University of Oslo and Senior Scientific Officer at the University College in Østfold.

Joar writes that; The medicating of behavioural problems in Norwegian schools is approaching epidemic conditions with regard to diagnosing and treating children with behavioural difficulties. This is particularly true of the diagnosis Attention Deficit Hyper-activity Disorder (ADHD) and Ritalin where at least 3000 schoolchildren are medicated by means of the central stimulating agent. The number is twice as large as in our neighbouring country Sweden, with twice our population.

This paper can be read here http://www.nkmr.org/english/medicating_of_schoolchildren.htm and is part of a site containing a wealth of papers on the family.

The site is presented by The Nordic Committee for Human Rights – NCHR – For the Protection of Family Rights in the Nordic countries. The Nordic Committee for Human Rights – NCHR – is an international, non-governmental organisation, free from politics and religion.

Their aims and purpose they describe as to;

* Increase the rights and freedoms of private individuals and their families.

* Strengthen respect for basic human rights and fundamental freedoms in the Nordic countries, based upon:

o The UN Declaration of Human Rights;

o The European Convention for the Protection of Human Rights and Fundamental Freedoms;

o The UN Convention on the Rights of the Child.

* Submit yearly reports of suspected violations of families’ rights to the UN organ for Human Rights, to the European Commission for Human Rights and to the UN Child Committee.

* Act resolutely to ensure that civil servants who are found guilty of abuse of power or of violating their fellow citizen’s private and family life be brought to justice or before disciplinary bodies.

* To create public opinion in order to bring about changes in the present policies whereby residents in the Nordic countries suffer unnecessary interference in their private and family life.

Roger’s comment: I share this view since I can see that some students of holistic education will want children to focus on meaning-full learning and meaning-full living – as an alternative to Ritalin and other drugs for healing fractured consciousness!

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All postings to this site relate to the central model in the PhD. Summaries are HERE